Is BDSM trending?

Is it just Me or have you also noticed BDSM showing up in mainstream media more and more? Whether it's a mention of golden showers on a tv show, or articles on spanking and foot fetish, it seems like more people are interested in and talking about BDSM and kink. Personally, I think it's wonderful that this subject is becoming more mainstream. In general, I think more people are kinky than we have been lead to believe and My hope is that kink and BDSM can be accepted as healthy forms of sexual self-expression. I'm doing My part to make that hope a reality, by teaching classes, mentoring newbie Femdoms, and giving My input for various articles. Recently I was interviewed by Sophie Saint Thomas for Allure magazine! Check out the article on foot care tips and foot fetish. It's still blowing My mind a bit that such a mainstream magazine is featuring articles like this. Bravo Allure! And if you haven't already, check out this article on CBT by Refinery 29 that I was featured on. I'm really thrilled to be able to share My knowledge and perspective with a broader audience. 

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CA vibes - DomConLA and Dominating SF

It's official: I made it to My first DomCon! I was very excited to see what the convention was all about, meet other kinksters, and enjoy some CA vibes! As soon as I landed and checked into the hotel, I was a busy bee, with 3 sessions back to back! I wore lingerie and leather while training and humiliating My subs. They were lucky to serve Me that day, being the Goddess that I am. 

As the weekend went on, I caused all kinds of trouble! Saturday in particular was a wonderful day of shooting guns, lounging by a beautiful pool, and then attending the Fetish Ball at night. I had the best time with some of My close, kinky friends and make some new connections along the way. Life is a dream when you're a Goddess who has slaves waiting on Me hand and foot and friends to have adventures with. 

shooting guns!!!! so fun!!!  photo taken by

shooting guns!!!! so fun!!!  photo taken by

Lounging in the pool. Photo by

Lounging in the pool. Photo by

My outfit for the Fetish Ball at DomConLA

My outfit for the Fetish Ball at DomConLA

After dominating LA and having lots of fun in the sun, I set off to San Fransisco. This was My first time visiting, and certainly won't be the last. What I love most about SF (besides the eager subs who were begging to serve Me) is how much nature is a part of the city. Living in NYC has Me craving for trees, beach, open sky. I went on several hikes in SF, had an afternoon at the beach, and generally enjoyed feeling connected to the natural world while enjoying city life. I had a fabulous few days there, with multiple femdom sessions, luxurious hotels with spa visits and massages in My hotel room, and two fetish photoshoots (pics coming soon).

I'm looking forward to My next trip to CA, but for now I'm ruling My empire back home in NYC. Feels great to be back and My regular clients, new male subs, and loyal personal slaves. I also have lots of fun weekend trips coming up, including a Goddess retreat this weekend and a visit to Boston June 18-20th. If you're interested in serving Me in a session while I'm in Boston, fill out a contact form. And as always, to see more pics from My Goddess Life, check out My Twitter @goddessaviva and Instagram @thegoddessaviva. 

My crazy weekend and more articles on BDSM

What a crazy, amazing, beautiful weekend I just had! Mostly it was filled with tantalizing sexual adventures: having a male top offer himself to Me as a sex-slave and deliver with his skills (I'm so sexy and manipulating even Doms want to submit to Me), a private play party at what I consider NYC's sexiest private club where I did a workshop on D/s, and a steamy all-night-into-the-next-morning threesome with a God and Goddess straight from heaven. On top of all that, I got to meet the amazing sex-writer for Refinery29, Sophie, and we dished on CBT and foot fetishes. It's such a treat to meet fun, smart, interesting people in the scene and connect on BDSM and the lifestyle. Sophie and I got along so well she even quoted Me in a couple of recent articles for Refinery29! Check out what I have to say about CBT here, identifying as a switch here, and foot fetish here.  And for those that enjoyed My piece with Metro about 10 Questions, I went even deeper in the latest article: BDSM is an "Act of Compassion"

It's such a joy to be living this life, exploring and connecting with people through kink and BDSM, and sharing all of that with the mainstream through articles. I hope you enjoy reading about these topics as much I enjoyed talking about them!

Post-threesome morning scene...what a great night!

Post-threesome morning scene...what a great night!

Interview with Metro!!!

I've been back in NYC for almost a month since all of My international winter travels, and what a month it has been! While I still dream of the perfect beaches and hot surfers of Sydney, it feels amazing to be in NYC. It's been wonderful to come back to My stable of slaves and regular clients: thank you all for your warm welcome home, I can tell you all missed Me so much! As I continue to build My empire, make self-improvements, and expand My influence as a Dominatrix and BDSM teacher, it gives Me great pride to be able to reach more of the mainstream and dispel some misconceptions about what it means to be a professional and lifestyle Dominatrix. For anyone who's had questions for a Dominatrix, My interview with Metro is a great read! I met the writer, Kimberly, at an NSFW event where I was teaching D/s and impact play.  I hope to continue to be a voice for sex and kink-positivity, BDSM that is Safe Sane and Consensual, and tapping into/expressing our divine sexual selves. 

Photo: NYCRyan

Photo: NYCRyan

The Femdom Diaries - new book by Mistress Darcy!

I am SO EXCITED to get My copy of The Femdom Diaries, a new book coming out on Valentine's Day, written by My long-time friend in the scene, Mistress Darcy. This fellow lifestyle and prodomme has been making waves in the international femdom community, and is now unleashing her creativity in writing steamy BDSM erotic fiction. So proud of this bad-ass bitch! I couldn't agree more with her when she says “Professional domination is, for me, about helping people. Helping them find themselves, express themselves, release shame, and embrace joy.”

The Femdom Diaries launches on Amazon Kindle on Valentines Day for $5.99. Purchase here. It makes the perfect Valentine's gift for all you kinky fucks out there! 

Boston bitches

I had such an amazing trip to Boston the 10-12th! It's always a pleasure to come to that great city and be served by such amazing subs and slaves. Thank you Boston for always taking such good care of Me! I felt completely pampered with chauffeurs, errand boys, dinner dates, and of course the great subs who served Me in session - you know who you are! I finally had the chance to break in the new PVC stiletto boots from My wish-list, and they were a total hit! If you missed Me on this trip, you may get the chance to serve next month, as I'm considering another visit in mid-December. As always, follow protocol and fill out a contact form to book. 

Using My Blog Again

It's been ages since I've used the blog feature on my website, so I'm excited to get back into it. I feel I have too many interesting experiences and insights not to be sharing with my fans. To start things off, I want to share this article from Quartz that discusses how a kinky sex life is actually healthy and can help us get into a state of "flow", I couldn't agree more! I'm all about a sex- and kink-positive lifestyle, so keep exploring and finding what works for you. 


NYC Fetish Party

Some friends organized a private fetish party last night, so of course I took a little piggy slave of mine and had a blast! Matching outfits, a bag of toys, luxurious penthouse setting, and sexy people all made for a memorable night.

I'm baaaaaack!

It feels so good to be back in NYC after so much time away! I'm settled in and ready to kick some ass. I just got these new boxing gloves and have started training again, perfecting my punching and kicking for slaves. I've also been practicing my florentine flogging. Get ready slaves... it's going to be a hot summer!

Vacation time...

I'll be leaving NYC for a few weeks, going off the grid and taking some much needed 'Me' time. Looking forward to returning to New York rejuvenated and ready for action. In the meantime, I won't be answering emails much, and won't be taking calls or texts. xx

Instagram Goddess

I have finally joined Instagram! Check it out and follow me to see pics from the life of a NYC Dominant Goddess. I'll be posting lots of goodies! A great way to get a peak into my life. Search for 'thegoddessaviva' or check me out here.

Art and Domination

This is the second of my Art and Domination posts where I post images of BDSM, kink, and Goddesses found in all forms of art. They are subjects that have interested artists and viewers for as long as people have been creating art.

Today I have a classic: Robert Mapplethorpe. An American photographer known for his often controversial black and white photography. Many of his images have a BDSM styling and are simply gorgeous. Learn more about Mapplethorpe here.

Spring Equinox

Spring has arrived! And with the Spring Equinox, a powerful New Moon, and Solar Eclipse: a perfect combination to perform a Goddess Ceremony. On this eve I performed such a ceremony alone, setting intentions for the rest of the year, shedding what no longer serves, and tapping into my Divine Power. Many blessings await this Spring and I intend to enjoy them all!